Therapy Week- What It's Really Like
I think about my first therapist from time to time.
Joan. She was so warm, 50 something, blonde hair, married. I met Joan while going through what would later become one of the most defining challenges of my life. I was engaged and my then fiance moved out unexpectedly, while I was at work. It was a truly devastating event and I remember feeling like my entire world was falling apart. I would walk into her office crying, saying no one would ever love me again and that I couldn’t see any of my days being better than the last. She would hug me at the end of every session. Every. Session. She would tell me I was smart, successful, and capable of giving and receiving love. All things I didn't know and needed to hear. It was life changing. I’m now happily married, have great friends and my life is the best it’s ever been. Ever since that first session in 2009, I've been a therapy believer and consistent attendee.
What is therapy really like?
Well first, I've never laid down but there's always a couch. I've always thought that was cute.
It's like talking to someone who knows you well (but is not quite a friend) and is always on your side. They aren't colored by your history or ties. They don't know your friends or your family. They aren't invested in you keeping a title at work. It's truly all about you. Every time I've had a dilemma that I've talked out in therapy, the end goal has been about what's best for LaToya. LaToya only. My own personal advocate. That's an amazing feeling.
How often do you go?
I've gone anywhere from twice a week to once a month check-ins. My routine now? Once every other week.
Do you really tell them everything?
Yes and no. I recommend being as open as you like. A good therapist will let you take your time and get comfortable before divulging anything deep. My therapist now is the one I need for my life now. Previously I've been working through immediate issues, work, family friendships. This round? I decided to go and work through some underlying issues before I get married and potentially have a child. The stuff that's deeeep. That required talking about a few things I never broached with the previous therapists. But I feel totally comfortable and it's time. That should be your main goal. To feel comfortable and to get what you need to get out of the time you spend with a therapist.